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| The last time I saw him before his deployment |
The rest of the summer was slightly uneventful. Penny came home in June and we ended up in
Starkville again with separate friends, again.
He’d gotten orders to deploy to Afghanistan, so this was his last time
to spend with his friends and family before he went. I had no intentions of
going to Starkville that weekend. In fact, I was celebrating a birthday in
Tuscaloosa and ended up driving over to Starkville. We didn’t see much of each
other, so he came to stay with me in Birmingham the night before he left. We talked about where the relationship was
headed and what we wanted. But didn’t officially become a couple. I was ok with that. He was going overseas. Though
he told me he didn’t want me to, I was planning to continue to date. In fact, I’d met some guys I was starting to
date and reconnected with one I’d dated just after college.
The day or two he was traveling to Afghanistan, I got a
message from the other girl. She told me
they had spent time together in Starkville a few weeks before. She didn’t want
to be led on by him and some other things that don’t really belong on this
blog. I was upset, not because of the
time he’d spent with her, because he had lied to me about it. I explained to
her that he and I were not a couple. The
fact that she even knew of my relationship with him meant he wasn’t really leading
her on. If she wanted to end things with
him she should do that on her own. She
didn’t need me for that; she’d already told him she didn’t want to be in a
relationship with him. So what did she expect him to do exactly? Wait until she
was ready? That’s not really how these things go. So either be with him or be
without him. After talking to her, I talked to Penny. He’d arrived in Kuwait. I
told him about my conversation (I actually emailed him the entire thing) and
how I felt about it. I also let him know that I was planning to continue to
date whether he wanted me to or not. This is definitely the short version of
this story. The gist is that there were men in my life I had to choose between
and women in his. It came down to whether we wanted to be together or not. July 1, 2010 we officially became a couple
from continents away.
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| Little happys that helped me make it the first 6 months |
The first six months were tough and full of Skype
sessions, Yahoo! Messenger, FB chat, FB PDA, care packages, and letters. I had a boyfriend I didn’t see from July to
December. Plenty of things happened in
those six months. I had to learn to be a girlfriend all over again, which (I
admit) I wasn’t really that great at in the first place. Honestly, I had one
boyfriend I had not cheated on. Ironically, he’s the only boyfriend I can prove
cheated on me. You reap what you sow right? I also like to do things on a whim
sometimes. You can’t really do that when your bf is in Afghanistan and you’re
in Alabama. It would irritate me so bad. I spent all my time going out with my
friends because they made it easier. But I would then be accused of partying
too much. There were plenty of times I wanted to give up on it. The ups and downs were incredibly noticeable. For me, the downs were really far down
because he wasn’t here to bring me back up. Despite the odds, I made it to
December.
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